Chloeo13
Neurodivergent Family Seeking Calm Sen-Aware Morning & Evening Support
About Me
We are a neurodivergent family living in Petersfield with two boys aged 9 and 11 who are bright, funny, curious and wonderfully unique. Both children have ADHD and our youngest also has autism, anxiety and EBSA (Emotionally Based School Avoidance). He has been out of school for the past year and we are currently moving through the EHCP process to identify a setting that can meet his needs and where he feels safe and able to attend.
As a result, our youngest is currently at home during the day and, whilst we work towards the right long-term educational environment for him, we are managing a period of increased support needs within the home.
I have also recently received my own diagnosis of ADHD and autism, which has brought both relief and a greater understanding of the level of structure and support our home environment needs in order for everyone to thrive.
As a neurodivergent household, we recognise that maintaining consistent routines can sometimes be challenging in practice, even when we understand the benefits for our children. We would welcome someone who feels confident sharing approaches or strategies that have been helpful in supporting other neurodivergent children, and who is comfortable working collaboratively with us to develop routines and responses that best support our boys.
We are a warm, loving family who want the very best for our children and are looking to create a calmer, more supported home environment during this period.
My Requirements
Mornings and evenings can be particularly challenging times, especially before and after medication has taken effect or worn off. During these transition periods, both boys may require support at the same time with emotional regulation and daily routines such as getting ready for the day, winding down in the evening and settling into bedtime.
Due to work commitments, my husband often has evening calls which means I am managing both children’s needs alone during these busy periods. Having another supportive adult present would allow one child to be kept company whilst the other receives help with tasks such as getting ready for bed, connecting through play or calming activities, or working through their bedtime routine. At times this may mean supporting one child whilst I provide one-to-one time to the other, and at other times taking the lead with parts of the bedtime routine to allow for that individual connection.
Support with simple practical tasks such as preparing breakfast in the morning or helping with dinner time in the evening (for example plating up meals, sitting with one child whilst they eat, or supporting calm mealtime routines) would also form part of the role.
Experience supporting neurodivergent or SEN children would be beneficial. Our children benefit from predictable routines, however these sometimes need to be approached with flexibility in order to support emotional regulation. At times, expectations may need to be adapted or presented collaboratively to reduce anxiety and avoid escalation. A calm, patient approach and an understanding that emotional regulation may need to take priority over task completion at certain times would be important within our home environment.
We are ideally looking for someone who may be available for:
• Morning support: approximately 7:00am – 9:00am
• Evening support: approximately 6:30pm – 8:30pm
Some flexibility around exact timings may be possible for the right person.
The role would include practical hands-on support such as:
• Helping guide the boys through morning or evening routines
• Keeping one child company or providing 1:1 support whilst the other receives individual time and support from a parent
• Supporting calm transitions between activities
• Gentle supervision and co-regulation when emotions are heightened
• Supporting breakfast and evening mealtime routines
• Light practical help around the home where needed during these times
We would love to welcome someone who understands neurodivergent children, takes a non-judgemental approach and is comfortable adapting in the moment to help maintain calm and support emotional regulation.
If you are calm, supportive and feel you could offer a steady extra pair of hands during these times, we would love to hear from you.
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